Me and my bf live togetehr and have been together 3 years, we have a dog together and for the most part have been happy.
Recently this very random issue has risen. Everytime I'm home while my bf is getting ready for work we end up in some massive argument. Like the other day, we were in a conversation and then he stopped responding didn't hear what I said basically ignored me. I got annoyed naturally because he does this so often it's like he suddenly shuts down from the convo and isn't interested. Anyways his sorry was saying sorry then sitting on his games and ignoring my whole presence. I obviously got ****ed off at this as I was like you haven't even wondered what I've said like what? The boy repeats sorry OK as he sits there staring at his screen playing a game. Obviously going to **** me off so I'm standing there trying to be like are you tho you don't even care what I said. He then does this silent treatment.... he does not respond so then i say I'm an idiot n get upset questioning everything. Then he says my voice is too loud ill give him a headache and the reason his silent is to not get a headache. He starts getting ready and I might try come like pls make up with me b4 you go but bad idea he gets annoyed and says I stress him out standing around him I always put pressure on him to answer. I'm like you just ignored speaking to me the whole time you could have. Anyways I usually am so ****ed off I'm like maybe I'll go tonight and he leaves for work then sends me a message later fearing I'll leave and saying sorry.
It happened again today when I went to make a tea and there was no milk so I got annoyed because his said he'd get milk the last 2 days and I thought he had. I'm ill so was more ****ed off but he decided to be all cocky n laugh n be liel well guess you have to go out haha. I said I was ****ed off and didn't find it funny. He proceeded to say I'm nasty. I was like how I'm.****ed of there's no milk that's all how can you be so sensitive. It goes on like this and I walk in the kitchen while his there getting ready and he says something so I stop n start speaking then he suddenly gets all stressed and annoyed at me for standing there and says my voice is loud and annoying and all I do is put pressure in him and stress him out before work. I this time decided to just leave and go get my mill, nothing was resolved and he had then left for work and won't see him till later.
I'm just here like do you even like me, my whole existence annoys you before you have to go to work I don't understand. Half the time all you needed to do was stop ignoring me. I'm so confused by this I'm finding it so hard. His had a few mental problems lately and been really unhappy in general I can't he'll but wonder if its me although he claims its not. I seem to just not do him good by the sounds of it. I know I'm not overly mean, I'm independent and headstrong I can justify what I say and what I think- I think he doesnt like that he gets annoyed if I don't agree with him but I'm like I think what I think you think that? It's not like it's stuff that would affect our life together. The whole thing is driving me crazy because we can be so happy and good together, we are so alike in ways but so diff in ways clearly. I don't know if to think this is just him coping with whatever thing he has going on not that I'll accept this coping way. Come the evening we can be fine again with each other it just seems to be the days I'm nit st work and he has to get ready and go to work.