Ok. So where to start.
I suppose that i should start out by saying that my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half.
The problem is this. Recently I realized that my boyfriend has been clearing the history on our computer (we live together) so I got worried and checked his email. I find that he is a member of several gay sex websites.
When I confronted him about all of this he said that there was a time his in his uni years when he was curious - but he never acted on it and it went away. (Yes my b/f is a good few years older than me).
The problem with this is that I know that he joined all those websites within the past 3 months. And most of them from my computer. His yahoo messenger is full of guys names and I never even realized he used that thing until i checked my history and saw that he had been logging on. And just today I had an instinct to log in to one of his sex sites and saw that he had emailed another member telling him that he wanted to "service" this man and that he could "host" (in my apartment, I pay for it actually i just let him stay with me). All this happened on the day I left my apartment to go visit family for the easter holiday. In fact, It happened less than a half hour after I left. I have already tried to talk to him about this.
I am bisexual and he knows that so I dont understand why he cant tell me. I am so hurt by him hiding it from me and I feel like he is slapping me in the face with it by using my computer and my apartment while I am away. And recently we have had a serious decline in our sex life. We have always had a very active sex life and now we only have intercourse anywhere between once a week to once every three days. Like I said, I know this is normal for some people but we have always had sex at least twice a day.
How can I confront him about this and let him know that he can be honest with me? what is the best tactic? The last time I tried he turned it around so that I was at fault for checking his things. And he lied to me. I have proof of most of it. I dont know if he has ever actually met one of these men or if he has ever had relations with another man in the past but I do have proof that he is approaching them.
I know its an essay, but please help me!