aw Im in such a similar relationship with you! I'm with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, we've started dating when he was in Uni, and now he is working full time and I'm still in last year of sixth form. We also hardly see each other cuz of 2.5hr train lmaooo. We had some communication problems at the beginning, I felt he is not as "sharing" as I hoped (eg proactively telling me what's been happening around him / any major changes) and did't actively invite me to anything. He's also the type that speaks less often and its typical for him sometimes being able to feel some negative feelings in him but he just can't put them into words, and can't explain the trigger / possible ways that I can help to cheer him up. In addition I am also not yet a positive and energetic person so my mood also gets affect by him. So for lots of times we experience a vicious spiral of feeling worse when we started sharing negative feelings / giving out suggestions. But since this year things have improved though. I think it's all down to communication, and being aware that sometimes our brain just work differently. Maybe you could try phrase your words carefully and explain thoroughly your feelings and what you want to him, and be careful not to imply anything or leave any spaces for him to interpret and infer. My bf ranked amongst the highest academically in one of Oxbridge, but sometimes when I ask him to infer something emotional that is literally common sense to me, he gives really really bizarre answer that I thought only aliens would do. (so I thought there's a slight possibility that your bf honestly feels its fine to watch football despite you are not interested in it? This is obviously not right, but I just think we have to make it clear that we don't like this. And if this happens again I can be sure it happened because he is not caring of me, rather than any form of misunderstanding between us) So I've given up hoping for him to understand my feelings. Whenever I need something I just raise it up very explicitly and we would discuss it formally. So maybe you could try the same? But you should really consider let it go if he keeps being ignorant of your feelings despite you making it fully clear.